“Pedro, I’m stuck.”
No you’re not stuck. You just refuse to make a decision.
If you’re like many of the people I’ve coached, there’s probably at least one decision that you refuse to make. You know you need to make it. You know it’s important…but you’re still procrastinating and that's why you’re stuck.
Most people think they don’t have enough information, or need more time to make a good decision. So they end up overthinking and get caught in mental loops and analysis paralysis.
Is this God? Is this me? Should I do this? Should I do that? What’s the wise thing to do here?
The other day in our Kingdom Seekers mentorship community, I broke down my best thoughts on a fully redemptive Kingdom aligned decision making process…I laid out a framework that is rooted in wisdom, kingdom principles, peace, love, and trust.
In that training conversation, I shared what God has shown me are the biggest lies/reasons that believers stay stuck.
Wrong Values
In the Kingdom, our values and core belief system play a huge role in our ability to make good decisions.
If our values are wrong or misaligned, then our decisions will be off too. So it’s wise to take some time to sit with the Lord, ask some questions, and get really clear on what your core values and convictions are.
As I’ve been walking through this personally…I realized something. Not all values are helpful. A good value doesn’t mean it’s a redemptive value.
In fact, holding too tightly to a value that is not redemptive may actually be betraying you, betraying God and betraying the Kingdom you are seeking.
A great example of this is LOYALTY.
Is loyalty a Kingdom value? Yes, generally.
But when someone holds loyalty so tightly that they become “loyal to a fault,” it is no longer Kingdom. It’s loyalty that’s been hijacked and perverted by the enemy to keep them stuck.
I’ve seen people stay at a job too long, at a church too long, or in a relationship too long…all in the name of “loyalty.”
That’s not loyalty, that’s usually fear keeping them in bondage.
So when looking at the value of loyalty through the Kingdom lens, the question is not just, “Am I loyal?”
The better questions are…
“Loyal to whom? Loyal to what? And to what end?”
Wrong values, misaligned values, and unredemptive values all lead to poor decision making.
If you want to make fully redemptive and Kingdom aligned decisions, then start with clear, redemptive values.
Take a few minutes right now to ask God:
“What unredeemed values am I holding onto that are betraying me and keeping me stuck in an old season? How can I bring them into alignment with the Kingdom?”
Then let me know what God shows you…I have a feeling many of us are dealing with some of the same things.
By the way...holding wrong values was just one of the lies we exposed in the Kingdom Seekers mentorship. We go after things like this every week, if you want to be in the room with us…the door is open. Join us here.